Changing My Thoughts ~ Changing My World

Or as Mr. ASIJ so aptly put it, “Get happy, or get kicked in the ass”.

Life is funny, you know. Or at least my life is. One minute I’m happy as can be, the next minute I’m carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders. Last night I said to Mr. ASIJ, “I’m trying so hard to be happy, but I just can’t find it in me.”

Mr. ASIJ said to me, “You don’t try, you just BE.” What’s the secret here? How do I look inside and find happiness? Now I know that no one is 100% ecstatic all the time and I don’t expect that. But contentment, I would love to just be content. And at peace. At peace with my life and the people in my life.

So today I am reaching way down inside and bringing to mind all that I’ve learned the past few years.

1. Thoughts are things. The first thing that comes to mind is the very first thing Mr. ASIJ taught me 13 or so years ago, “Thoughts are things.” Thoughts are energy and take on a life of their own. And they attract “like” thoughts. Which results in expansion.

2. Don’t pay attention to things you don’t want in your reality.Only pay attention to beauty, peace, love, and everything you DESIRE in your life. I’ve been, for some time now, studying the teachings of Abraham-Hicks. This morning’s quote was “By paying attention to the way you feel, and then choosing thoughts that feel the very best, you are managing your own vibration, which means you are controlling your own point of attraction — which means you are creating your own reality. It’s such a wonderful thing to realize that you can create your own reality without sticking your nose in everybody else’s, and that the less attention you give to everybody else’s reality, the purer your vibration is going to be — and the more you are going to be pleased with what comes to you. — Abraham ` Excerpted from the workshop in Boca Raton, FL on Saturday, December 8th, 2001 #724

In other words, keep your nose out of everybody else’s business and focus on yourself. And all will be well.

3. Change your outlook. Wayne Dyer says, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” This can be very powerful. And a very important way to be able to survive in some of the circumstances that people find themselves in. I’ve often wondered how in the world did people manage to survive during The Holocaust. How do people survive in prison, especially if they are in prison for something they didn’t do. It happens all the time, but somehow, someway, they survive.

4. Breathe. Just stop and breathe. Sometimes that’s the best thing for change. Allow yourself to look around and see where you are…physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally. Breathe and accept. Wrap your arms around the person you’ve become.

5. Give yourself permission to change whatever needs to be changed, even if it means walking away. It’s hard to change our attitude when a person or place is beating us down.  I know…and walking away is sometimes the hardest thing to ever do. Be good to yourself and give yourself permission to do what you need to do.

6. And last, but not least…

Smile though your heart is aching
Smile even though it’s breaking
When there are clouds in the sky, you’ll get by
If you smile through your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You’ll see the sun come shining through for you

Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear may be ever so near
That’s the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what’s the use of crying?
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile

That’s the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what’s the use of crying?
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile


Reasons For Not Being Present

I have none. Not even one tiny reason for not being here. But this blog is not dead. No sirree. Not by a long shot. I was merely…




Life still went on. I have learned this one BIG thing! Life goes on no matter what I’m doing.

Even if the teacher of life should call roll and I don’t say “Present” or “Here”, the class will still go on with the others that ARE present and IT WILL NOT STOP BECAUSE I’M NOT THERE!!!

Yes, life goes on.

I still turned 54.

Then I turned 55.

I still received good and bad news.

Now I am assessing the situation to see how I want to proceed from here.

I have ideas. I am in the middle of several projects. Not really big stuff, just stuff I’ve decided to do or become. I’m still decluttering. Physically and mentally decluttering. I’m debating on whether to become a true minimalist. The lifestyle is so appealing to me after being such a packrat for all my life. The past few moves were just horrible, all because we have SO MUCH STUFF! Being able to move just a few pieces of furniture and a few personal belongings would be heavenly. And I’m older now, why keep putting myself though such torture? So this is an ongoing project.

For so many years, one of my biggest obstacles to moving on in life was “letting go”. Decluttering my life has been a great lesson in letting go and I have discovered just how good it feels to let go.

But I’m not letting go of this blog.

It is a safe place for me.

And I’ve come back…